Level Up with Lee – Dealing with Grief

Key Takeaways

• Avoid the 'one year rule' for major financial decisions after a loss—readiness depends on pursuing active grief recovery, not arbitrary timelines. Some people recover faster with professional help, while others need longer without it.
• Beware of replacing losses with purchases (retail therapy, expensive vehicles) as a way to convince yourself you're fine; these short-term soothing behaviors can lead to poor financial decisions and potential addictions.
• When supporting a grieving partner or family member, practice deep listening without judgment, advice, or comparison—let them express themselves fully without interrupting or trying to be part of their story.
• Recognize that grief shows up at work through reduced focus, decreased energy, and changed habits (sleep, eating, drinking); consider having honest conversations with your employer about temporary accommodations similar to physical injury recovery.
• Seek specialized grief recovery professionals (like those certified by the Grief Recovery Institute) rather than only relying on general therapy or support groups that may reinforce grief as part of your identity rather than facilitate healing.